My wife Denise (1956-2021) :,( EDIT: I can't believe it's already been a year...

[Estil | 1,264]

This morning I got some very very sad news.   Perhaps the saddest news of my life this far   Just one week short of our big Sweet Sixteen anniversary that I had been hyping up here where I was going to come see her (she had to be in a nursing home 40ish miles away) and play Nintendo with her for the first time and present her with a nice Sweet 16 Anniversary plaque and everything...

She passed away in her sleep.   I mean she did have various health (both physically/mentally) issues but...I just didn't think it'd be now, like this...  

I don't know what else to say but among other things I by far credit her most with helping make me a proud cat lover/cat daddy and I will always have at least one. 

Thank you so much Denise, for all the happy memories and other things we were able to experience together.  I hope I was able to make the last 16 years of your life happy ones and I hope I made a really good kind of difference in your life.

Now neither of us were in the military (though her "ma" was a WAVE during WWII) and in this case, I don't think she in this song even got 16 days with her new hubby, much less 16 years...but Carrie Underwood is by far her favorite singer (in fact it was right before we got married that she was on American Idol) and I can't think of a better song/video to describe the situation and to give tribute to her...and the change in her dress was VERY nicely done.

A couple more tribute songs for her...when my grandma was playing cards at her house last Sunday (we restarted that tradition the previous Sunday because we both got COVID vaccines now) we had the Music Choice Classic Country channel on and this song happened to play...and I told my grandma how much my wife adored Marie Osmond:

Not so much while we were married but before then like in the 80s/90s or something she was very much into ABC soaps and she was especially into the whole Luke and Laura thing...now I had already done this song as a tribute to my dearly departed Tweetie (our first cat together) for her passing in 2012 and I certainly think the song fits here.

And yes I will do just this for both my dearly departed girls

One of her big mottos was to take things "one day at a time" so while I'm not really a religious person, I just gotta post this one for her:

UPDATE:

Here is her obituary announcement from our local funeral home in case anyone would like to post a tribute or nice message or something on her Tribute Wall:

https://www.davisfuneralhome.com/obituaries/Denise--Helena-Rumage?obId=21378170#/celebrationWall

Edited June 9, 2022 by Estil

[Renmauzo | 1,200]

My heart goes out to you Estil...I don't know what to say other than that i don't know what to say...and that my thoughts are with you, truly.

[JamesRobot | 5,800]

So sorry to hear this.  Best wishes and condolences to you and your family.  Rest in peace, Denise.

[Murray | 2,448]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. 

[Kguillemette | 1,544]

You were a great husband. I'm sorry for your loss.

[drxandy | 3,225]

Aw nooo, I'm sorry dude. I wish I could think of something more to say but I can only imagine how you are feeling. My deepest condolences.

[RH | 4,903]

I'm truly sorry to hear of your loss.  I'll be praying for you for comfort and peace.

[spacepup | 2,404]

Sorry to hear Estil.  I'm glad to hear she passed peacefully in her sleep, but I'm sure this will be difficult.  It sounds like she brought much joy and many good things to your life, so I hope you are able to focus on that and cherish those memories as much as possible, especially in the coming days.

[Hammerfestus | 3,839]

Sorry for your loss

[phart010 | 1,707]

Sorry for your loss.

[fcgamer | 4,723]

Really sorry to hear this, Estil.

My thoughts will be with you during these times.

rest in peace Denise.

[captmorgandrinker | 1,649]

Very sorry to hear this; my condolences to you and your family.

[Tulpa | 3,492]

Sorry to hear about it, Estil.

[Reed Rothchild | 9,523]

I'm very sorry for you Estil

[Strange | 1,700]

I’m so sorry and saddened to hear this. We’re all here for you Estil.

[a3quit4s | 4,097]

My sympathies for your loss

[GPX | 1,369]

Condolences Estil. May Denise now Rest In Peace. 

[Tabonga | 2,317]

My condolences. While I am not gonna say I know what exactly what you are going through (although I am certain it is intense) I can certainly empathize given Mrs. Tabonga's recent passing.

While I can't say it gets better - it does slowly get easier.  And at least for me I spent a whole day crying shortly after she was buried - normally I hate crying but it was oddly cathartic and I felt a bit better the next day.

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One thing I have been doing  is to not isolate myself (I am a pretty strong introvert) and I have been going out to a lot of lunches and breakfasts with relatives. friends of mine and friends of hers.  (Besides my cooking sucks......)  

[Rocketship Evan | 55]

Sorry for your loss. 

[Mega Tank | 960]

I'm sorry for your loss Estil.

[TrekMD | 1,401]

Very sorry, man.  My condolences.

[Estil | 1,264]

Thanks everyone

[Foochie776 | 1,051]

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss 

[TDIRunner | 2,735]

Sorry for your loss.  My condolences.  

[Spacemanspiff | 8]

My condolences, so sorry for your loss.