arch_8ngel

5 hours ago, darkchylde28 said:

I was really saddened to hear about how the cops on the scene stopped a priest from giving him his last rites as he lay dying, citing that it was "an active crime scene."  There was already irrefutable proof of who had done what, so I don't understand how letting a priest kneel next to a mortally wounded man to try and help ease his suffering as well as his passage into what comes next would have ruined or tampered with anything there.  I mean, shit, the paramedics (if they were called, haven't read much in depth about this), would have done more to mess up the scene than guy there to care for the victim and his soul.

Regardless of how we each might feel about religion, and Catholicism in general, the victim here was Catholic and most likely would have been comforted by the duty the priest was trying to perform, but was denied that due to a police policy folks on the scene (and likely higher up, since the article I read defended their actions) didn't have the sense to make an exception in.

RIP David Amess.

Hold up, if he wasnt dead yet, why wasn't he being rushed to a hospital or seen by paramedics? (Even if his condition was dire and he was going to die enroute)

It isn't (or at least, shouldn't be) up to cops to decide if your condition is salvageable...

3 hours ago, Code Monkey said:

 

"Most Americans out of the labor force are women and those without a college degree."

There you go, people are making minimum wage, they see how much more they could be making with unemployment and Covid subsidies and they quit. I know people in my community that have done it, it's incredibly common.

Also, if you set up your finances correctly, you don't really need to work for long periods. You could simply not work for 3-6 months and it shouldn't really have any impact on your finances at all, otherwise you are spending too much.

You don't get paid unemployment when you quit.

Also, those people working minimum wage that you mention, typically work paycheck to paycheck with zero savings and no ability to handle financial disruption.

Anyone quitting by choice isn't living off of subsidies.  And anyone with the savings to float for a few months, or more, wasn't working minimum wage.

Solid 9.  Great movie from an era where you could stumble across something like this on TBS as a 7 year old and have it burned into your mind for life.

25 minutes ago, RH said:

I think part of the turn off for me is that all of the aging 60s/70s artists still doing their thing, Steve Tyler feels the most immature. Eventually that's a turn off. Mic Jagger, Jimmy Page, Alice Cooper, Sting, David Bowie, Eddie Van Halen, heck even Dee Snyder to an extent, all seemed to have at least a slight maturing rennesance. I just don't see that much with Aerosmith, and to me, it's a turn off.

This may be a big part of it.

Their whole image really breaks down when they try and maintain it well past middle age and into being senior citizens.

I used to love them, and actually saw them in concert back in 2001, I think.

But sometime in the past 15 years I have kind of gotten over them and they don't really do it for me anymore.

Not sure how that fairly translates into a rating, since younger me would have given them a 9, probably. But nowadays I will change the station.

I am content to marvel at it the next time I go to a brick con.

22 hours ago, Richardhead said:

All of that except leather can come from other animals. 

The best leather is horse hide, anyway...

On 9/23/2021 at 11:50 PM, Fryer64 said:

Thanks everyone, we sat down and discussed it . She basically wanted the dog to hopefully be less sad about the situation. 

 

 

Having gone through a loss of a dog a few years ago, and eventual new dog - a new dog isn't really a substitute for the one you already had a relationship with. And it isn't going to make her feel better about feeling like she failed by letting the dog get hit by a car.

That is all going to take time to mourn and process.

Dave, how is a client stating what they are interested in paying any different than an employer stating the wage for a job opening?

It is not "insulting" except that you choose to take offense at a negotiation tactic from the client.

I will grant that there is a gambit in negotiation related to anchoring, where the first person to state a price sets beginning expectations for discussion -- but it isn't something to take offense at when someone beats you to the first offer.  It is just business.

Now, if the price is changing after a service is rendered, that is a breach of contract, and is an entirely different discussion.

All that said, when it comes to contract bidding, it makes life a lot easier when a client lets you know their budget up front.

I still think it is a bit of an odd position to take to be upset about a client openly stating a starting point of what they are willing to pay for a service.

They aren't forcing anyone to take the role. And if nobody takes it, the price they are offering goes up, or they don't get the service.  Simple as that.

There is nothing offensive about it.

It still all boils down to a market transaction of services.  You want to be paid a certain amount, the client wants to pay something less than that.

You negotiate and come to some kind of agreement, or you don't take the gig.

I still don't see the issue with the request for a resume, though.  It just doesn't seem like that big of a deal to offer up qualifications for why you are worth the money you want to get paid.

Generally speaking, if a prospective client is asking for some kind of verification of your background and suitability, and you refuse, you are not doing yourself any favors in the negotiation.

Employers ask for resumes.  It isn't offensive, and strikes me as completely normal.

When I offered private tutoring to high school and middle school kids, in college, the company offering the service needed my transcript to see that I was actually competent in the various subjects I was going to tutor. They could then assure the clients they were doing that due diligence and giving the kids access to knowledgeable tutors.

7 hours ago, fcgamer said:

This isn't an online versus private 1:1 tutoring issue though, I had just listed some online prices for comparison/reference reasons.

There's still a huge demand for private tutoring, especially for kids.

The issue more stems from a reverse market manipulation, I feel.

I would think it has more to do with the proliferation of "digital nomad" types effectively flooding the market while seeking a reliable east Asian foothold.

While the internet access item mentioned may not be directly undermining your services, what it has done is make it a lot easier for more people offering similar services to be OK with moving away from home to work abroad in a field that is perceived (in the west), rightly or wrongly, as the low hanging fruit for a westerner seeking employment in Asia.

I would be interested to hear more about why you found the request for a resume so offensive, though. Seems like if you have applicable experience it would be worthwhile to justify your requested price.

1) You know what you would like to charge, the client knows what they are willing to pay.  The tutor isnt getting the gig until those two prices match.  It takes two to make the transaction happen.

That said, whichever party is expected to lead off negotiations could be a cultural matter, and if you want to do business in a culture it is generally best practice to respect their norms to the extent possible.

2) you are selling a specialty service by the session, where your academic history, at least, is highly relevant.  It isn't inappropriate to request an actual resume for this type of job.  You are certainly welcome to refuse - but see my first response about cultural norms. The more you go against them, the fewer opportunities you will have to do business.

3) obviously not. That is an incredibly naive view.  In the USA for any job where people are responsible for kids it is best practice to conduct a background check though law enforcement.

I live in a house built in 1922 -- DIY becomes your long term hobby

6 hours ago, WalterWhiteJr. said:

 or those that have already heavily profited and need the market to appear legitimate to validate them. 

A guy that made $2MM across two auctions and has already been paid does not really need validation at this point 

26 minutes ago, CodysGameRoom said:

 

Clearly it is not! Like... why pose the question? How in any world could that be ethical? It's NOT ETHICAL!!! lol jesus

Just curious where you put the threshold?  Dollar one? Or some percentage?

With regulated markets, there is the concept of being a major stakeholder (>10% ownership with publicly traded companies, >25% with small/private companies) vs simply being an investor.

4 hours ago, darkchylde28 said:

Well shit, you can just get an NES classico 

Is that the one with the red sauce or the white sauce?

45 minutes ago, darkchylde28 said:

And anybody who actually does know something for sure about the inner workings sure isn't saying anything, presumably because of the potential for legal repercussions.

Legal repercussions from the company that bought them, more likely.

Anyone in the inner workings almost certainly signed away their ability to talk openly about anything without permission from higher up the chain.

13 minutes ago, darkchylde28 said:

Before dumping it, talk to me, if you would, as I might be interested, and even if we can't work something out, I have a lot of acquaintances who are into classic Apples who would love to get a shot at an original machine, especially with all the trimmings.

As far as I know, it is "everything" except for the drawing-pad/digitizer and a HDD (since those cost as much as the computer back then) -- (i.e. mac, secondary external floppy, impact printer, and external modem)

The issue is that there is no sensible way to ship it without going freight - so I'm going to have to look for regional buyers.

The floppy drives need to be refurbed - and I never did get around to picking up one of those CF-readers - so they'll need to fix one of the drives, or get a CF-reader to get it up and running.

But I'm happy to take offers from interested parties on the whole setup.

1 minute ago, darkchylde28 said:

Before dumping it, talk to me, if you would, as I might be interested, and even if we can't work something out, I have a lot of acquaintances who are into classic Apples who would love to get a shot at an original machine, especially with all the trimmings.

As for his "stuff," yeah, I get that, and I don't blame you for going through and discarding it.  However, to your dad (and possibly to your mom), a lot of it was probably memories.  Sure, it's not necessarily the most rational thing to keep something around just because it brings something fond or important back to your mind, but humans aren't rational creatures, and that's what we often do.  Nobody should have to hang onto a loved one's stuff that they don't want or understand, but at least try to understand why that "junk" was likely still hanging around.

I don't know, I think it depends on who's handling the estate sale--family or a company dedicated to that type of thing.  Remember, more than a few copies of SE, boxed and not, were claimed to have been picked off of shelves at estate sales on the old NA boards, usually for a couple of bucks because nobody knew what it was.  Even if something is in a case, that will make the difference from $5 video game to "fancy cased $10 video game" to a grieving family who DGAF.

I disagree with the part in bold. Something with a clearly "special" treatment is going to warrant more due diligence than something not - though people talking with their families about this stuff in the first place goes a long way to making sure it gets sold properly.  (but seriously -- EVERYONE reading this -- have a clear plan to save your family and your estate the hassle, and work to sell your stuff strategically at some point -- the money is way easier to pass through the estate in a fair an sensible way, and dealing with selling your stuff is truly a burden, not a blessing, to whoever you leave behind)

Regarding the memories and "junk" / accumulation -- Marie Kondo was onto something with her idea of hold the thing in your hands, thank it for its service, and let it go.  (but no, in my family's case, most of my dad's "stuff" was not "memory" related -- it was really just accumulated stuff, that since he had plenty of space to store it, never felt any need to proactively dispose of it)

12 minutes ago, darkchylde28 said:

"WATA?  WTF?  I can't get the damned game out to play it!  Screw this junk!  (chuck)" 

As much as some of you guys want to hate on the slabbed stuff - that stuff, at least, is likely to get treated properly in an estate sale.

The trading-card box filled with game manuals, on the other hand.

Or even unslabbed sealed stuff -- I would take better odds than a coin flip that it gets opened while the estate is being inventoried.

All that said -- I don't know whether some of you guys have "end goals" for any of your collecting, or not -- but I definitely had it reinforced from a year of dealing with both my dad's estate AND my granddad's estate, that it is WAY WAY WAY more courteous to your family to have a plan to deal with your things WELL BEFORE you die.

5 minutes ago, Rhapsody98 said:

 

Can confirm.  When my dad died, we tossed a three foot square box of 5 1/4 floppies into the dumpster. (I still get flack from it from @darkchylde28, but no one even had a machine to read them anymore!)

My parents were diet-hoarders -- basically upper-middle-class large house with enough space to store everything that "never getting rid of anything" was acceptable.

Then, when my dad died a couple years ago, while it was "nice" to be able to round up all of my 80's toys and actually get some decent money for them on eBay -- but man, my dad's habit of hanging onto electronics was a chore to sift through to see if anything was worth dealing with, versus just sending to the recycler or Goodwill.

I still have his nearly-complete original Macintosh (boxes, manuals, accessories, the works) -- that I'm either going to refurbish myself, or at least find a real collector to sell it to.

But a lot of the rest was just "stuff".

And then when my mom moved and sold the house -- literally EVERYTHING ELSE that was left just went through an estate seller to clear it out in one pass.

There was just too much stuff in the house to deal with in a timely fashion, and at some point you just rip off the emotional bandaid and move on.

5 minutes ago, ExplodedHamster said:

Last laugh’s on them when they die and it all gets sold to re-sellers/investors via Estate Sales and Storage Wars .

Worse -- eventually a bunch of it just gets thrown in the trash.

15 minutes ago, darkchylde28 said:

#TRUTH

That dude has more dedication to picking nits than ever I did as an angry, frustrated 15 year old calling BBSs constantly to fill all my free time arguing (until I got a girlfriend and BBSs were killed by the internet).

I'd like to think with the forum switch, I've tried to be a kinder, gentler arch_8ngel  

1 minute ago, WalterWhiteJr. said:

In what way did wata or any of the sealed hype legitimize the hobby? I really don’t understand that argument. It’s always been legitimate. It’s brought joy and community to those that desire to collect. Isn’t that legitimate enough? What are the requirements to legitimize? Bringing in outside money hungry speculators? Having news articles talk about sealed prices? I really don’t get the legitimize argument. 

The obvious assumption is that they meant legitimize high-end sealed items as investment-grade collectibles.