Estil 1,123 Member · Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 (edited) Now just for clarification, I am not talking about the kind of mis-gendering you've heard on the news recently regarding transgender people. This is more the old fashioned kind of mis-gendering. By that I mean nearly every time on the phone with customer service or whatever (I purposely don't mention my name at first because I know some might consider it a female name like "Estelle" or something) they call me "ma'am"!! And it drives me CRAZY!!!! I've asked around and people insist I don't have a woman's voice yet I get called "ma'am" on the phone nearly every...single...time. This has occasionally happened even after I've said I'm the husband or son or whatever!!! Now listen, (to sort of paraphrase Gretchen Wilson) I ain't never been the tough macho alpha male type. But I am still a guy just the same, aren't I? I mean is it too much to ask to not be referred to by female pronouns by people on the phone who are guessing gender? I remember my first job at a Wendy's in the late 90s and its manual said for just this reason to not use gender specific pronouns at the drive-thru so you don't mistakenly call a male "ma'am" or a female "sir". It just drives me crazy, it really does...I don't know what could be done about this, other than make a Darth Vader voice every time I answer the phone or something but I just had to at least vent somewhere. Any of the rest of you have a similar issue? If so what's the best way to handle it? I know I shouldn't defensively say "I'm not a ma'am!" but it just bothers me so much I often can't help it... Edited November 22, 2019 by Estil Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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